This program helped me see the ways I’d created obstacles with intimacy in our relationship, and gave me tools that have really transformed the context.

When we joined Conscious Relating I’d been feeling some ambivalence and was lacking confidence in my relationship; there was a lot of conflict and systemic stress. These struggles were making me doubt whether or not I wanted to make a longer term commitment to my partner, and consider kids and/or marriage. Our relationship needed a supportive healing container - which is what we got! We had done some other couples work, but this really strengthened us. I gained very powerful nervous system regulation tools that have really changed how I meet the moment with my partner. I can now see her in a new light. We have much more trust together and a new language as a couple, which has allowed for greater depth and intimacy. I feel much more reassured and grounded in our connection. I have less doubt about us, more clarity, and more excitement for what's to come. 

This program feels like an accelerator for learning the anatomy of conscious relationships.

The course material was brilliant. I loved it. I found it to be very comprehensive and deep, as well as accessible and fundamental which is so important. 

The experience of being in this program was deep, expansive, fun, inspiring,  educational, and rewarding. Caroline really is a spark that helps people ignite latent fires while teaching them how to keep the embers burning. She has a strong energetic presence that is captivating, and her competence and confidence truly shine in this relational work. 

I highly recommend Conscious Relating!

 - J.K. 

I now feel much more like a team, and that we’re fighting *for* our connection, rather than *against* each other. I’m so profoundly glad we took this step.

My partner and I had been caught in a painful conflict cycle and kept repeatedly triggering each other's core wounds, despite our deep love. We struggled to find lasting common ground; we’d reach a resolution only for the conflict to resurface later in a different form. We were often walking on eggshells, especially when stressed, and the looming possibility of an argument was daunting. We were constantly comparing our reality to some perfect future ideal, and I found myself either frantically pursuing connection & reassurance or shutting down completely. It was exhausting. 

I was hesitant to enroll in the program because I was nervous that it might confirm we were somehow incompatible. With my ADHD and rejection sensitivity, I also worried about implementing tools consistently. I feared that if things didn’t progress, it would be my fault. 

But we really needed tools beyond our usual marathon discussions, and new solutions that felt attainable and empowering. Ultimately our commitment outweighed our fears, and we joined. I’m so glad we did. 

My biggest breakthrough was understanding my nervous system patterns and how that relates to my attachment wounds and also my partner’s patterns. It helped me understand the "why" behind our conflict struggles and how to move forward with more options.

I learned to recognize our pursue-withdraw dynamic in real time, name it, and actually interrupt it. This simple shift has been transformative.

Now I can handle conflict with more curiosity rather than falling into accusation or defeat, because I understand my nervous system better. Caroline’s frameworks taught me how to approach challenges with more awareness, skill and lightness, helping us honor that we’re both healing while actively building something beautiful together. 

 This program helped me understand that true relationship transformation starts inside, instead of trying to change my partner. This shifted my focus from, "How can I get my partner to understand me?" to "Who do I want to be to create the connection we both want?" 

 I also deeply appreciated Caroline’s facilitating presence during the group calls. Her deep wisdom and warm approach created a safe space where every question and insight was met with care. 

 I absolutely recommend Conscious Relating. It’s an invaluable resource for partners who love each other deeply but feel stuck in recurring patterns, triggers, & old wounds, and who want to actively build a more secure, joyful, & connected relationship.

 - A.M.

Now, I trust myself more than I ever have. As a result, I know how to express my needs clearly and feel safer and closer to my partner. It feels like our relationship is growing in the right direction.

I really wanted to be less reactive and have better communication with my partner. I was feeling frustrated with my own ability to communicate, and I also felt unseen, misunderstood, and resentful. I felt really stuck. We were caught in loops that seemed to last for days. It was difficult to be productive throughout the day because our disagreements would last so long and were so heavy. I was distracted and frustrated much of the time. I also had trouble feeling closeness, connection and empathy for my partner.  

It was important for me to become softer with my partner and understand that much of what we’re dealing with in our dynamic stems from the past, and we are healing.

The modules in the program were easy to relate to, and each time I listened I felt more awareness and possibility about our relationship. Our struggles were clarified and normalized, and the changes Caroline suggested felt do-able. The group sessions reinforced that hopeful feeling as many of us are struggling in similar ways. Working through things in community feels lighter, and this program helped me to feel lighter too.

I feel more empathy and patience, and I have the tools to slow down when I need to. I breathe more and I'm more curious about my reactivity and self-talk.

Caroline's empathic presence and skill helped me discover personal difficulties that were contributing to our dynamic, and she offered helpful tools to navigate these otherwise frustrating experiences, which gave me hope. It's so handy to be able to continually reference her methods and teachings via the video modules.

These tools are continuing to help me navigate conflict better and prevent spirals, while also allowing me to feel more powerful, soft and confident at the same time. I definitely recommend this program to others.

- Previous Program Participant  

I’ve been able to see myself, my partner, and our dynamic from a different perspective.

I knew that my issues were affecting my partner, and it was important to show her that I was willing to put that effort into improving our relationship. I really wanted to be the best person I could be for my partner. I had felt hopeless at times about being able to communicate effectively. We had the same conversations over and over and neither of us felt understood. We both struggled with feeling unappreciated as well. These patterns had really worn me down. I was less engaged, less curious, and getting more resentful. 

Doing this program provided a dedicated time to learn and be curious about myself and my partner, to look at communication and conflict differently, and see what was getting in the way. I’ve been able to understand some concrete ways in which I was negatively contributing to my relationship dynamic, and then implement new tools. Things are definitely improving. I enjoyed the commitment of doing this program with my partner, and the hopefulness that came from taking action together.

Caroline is very open, accepting, and non judgmental. During our private sessions she helped me feel able to explore difficult and uncomfortable material. The program offered a good reality check of some essentials for a healthy long-term relationship such as: It starts with you, real progress takes practice, everyone has issues, there are good and hard days, stay curious. Before the program things felt more rigid. Now it feels more like "are we willing to put in new efforts to figure this out?", and “what can I do on my end?” which feels more empowering and productive. 

I would recommend this program to any couples interested in healthy growth and getting unstuck. 

 - Eric 

We’ve found that spark again and I would even go as far as saying it felt like our honeymoon phase came back.

My wife and I signed up since we were struggling with our communication and had lost the spark we once had for each other. I was scared for our relationship. I personally felt like a shadow of myself from what I once was in the relationship. I was constantly feeling down and angry, and that my needs were not being met. I’m sure she felt the same. Stress was high for both of us, working and raising our 3 kids. 

Through this program I learned how to actually love myself, which was key to my progress. I’ve started to really focus on my self-growth so I can be better for my wife and happier overall. I feel more confident with intimacy, and we’re having much more of it. We made such rapid growth in a short time with this program, and our relationship has changed for the better.  We're continuing to work on things and practice the Conscious Relating tools when we slip back into old patterns.

Working with Caroline was amazing and she helped us do the inner work as well as give practical strategies. Her guidance around wording things differently while navigating conflict and stress was so helpful. We’ll continue to put the lessons we learned into our everyday lives. 

 - Austin

I am so grateful for this program! It’s helped me be gentler with myself, and with my husband. I feel less resentment towards him.

I didn't want to do traditional weekly couples therapy; the format of this program allowed me to access the material from my home and on my own time. It has been incredibly empowering to learn how to self-regulate and build self-awareness. Now I can actually ask for what I need, which has had a positive impact for both of us.

Conscious Relating helped me understand my communication style, energy, and presence, and how those impact my husband and family. This program has an enormous amount of tangible tools and thoughtful practices for a healthy relationship. I’m so glad we did this together; it deepened our connection and commitment to each other.

I would recommend this program and working with Caroline to all couples looking for real tangible support and beneficial tools to navigate their relationship better!

- Margaret

I feel more inspired and intentional in my marriage now. 

I would absolutely recommend Conscious Relating for any couple that feels that they need a relationship tune up, and like they've fallen into unhealthy patterns.

I feel closer to my partner, more understood and confident, and no longer just on autopilot. I’m more aware of my part in patterns of disconnection and distance, and I’m less intimidated to put in the essential efforts to deepen our connection. This program has brought a lot of intention to our relationship overall and it was enjoyable to take together. I found sharing our program journals, worksheet responses, and insights to be connective and helpful.

We’re both more able now to catch ourselves sliding into unhelpful patterns and redirect ourselves. This program was amazingly helpful, and Caroline was awesome to work with! She’s an excellent and insightful guide, and was quickly able to tune into us as individuals and a couple.

Her bright presence, wisdom, and many years of experience helped us to disrupt patterns that were creating distance and disconnection and feel closer. Her guidance and tools have been encouraging, pragmatic and helpful.

-Brendan

Since taking this program, I now feel like we’re actually a team.

When we joined,  we were so overwhelmed in our busy lives and our communication was really struggling; each of us felt burnt out and resentful. We didn't have the capacity to figure it out ourselves and we knew we needed help.

Working with Caroline really opened my eyes to be able to examine myself. I feel more inner strength and resilience, and more awareness around when to take a step back and pause when I need to. 

Her intuitive guidance, thoughtful questions and natural curiosity about what was possible in our relationship helped both of us to view our issues in a new way.

This program has given us practical and tangible ways to get through conflict more skillfully, with much more awareness of what's going on underneath. Now we're more patient with each other, we're having less frequent arguments, and we have an easier time reconnecting after getting frustrated.

Thank You, Caroline! You're such a wonderful guide and coach and I’m so grateful to have taken the course!

-Tim 

The Conscious Relating program was more rewarding than I could have imagined.

When we joined, we were in a period of survival mode and high external stress- overtaxed in our own lives, with difficulty finding time to care for ourselves and be together. We kept returning to the same negative communication patterns and frustrations again & again. We needed support to stop these cycles and strengthen our connection. 

I liked that the program allowed us to work at our own pace, which fit well with our needs and our busy schedules. We were able to cover a lot of ground and get concrete, usable techniques to implement, and genuinely understand each other better. We’ve been able to clarify our expectations and deeper needs, and now we have more warmth, patience and generosity for one another. Our relationship now feels nourishing, not another drain on our resources. And it’s easier to remember what we’ve always known: we want the best for each other, and we can support each other in tough moments. 

Working with Caroline was so fruitful and beautiful. It felt intuitively right, and confirmed how I want to feel in my relationship. It helped me get back to my core truths and feel that my partner and I are on the same team. I feel more hopeful and inspired, and so proud of us and the strong relationship we have built, and will continue to build.

This program has given us the strength and possibility to re-imagine our lives and what we deeply want. Now it feels like we can achieve our dreams.

We have both been recommending this program to everyone we know!

 -T.L.